Let it
Question: OK. I'm ready for all that — to focus on the why instead of the how, and to let my dream change to something vastly more satisfying. What now?
Answer: Let it be. Let 'er rip! Let it flow. Let it, let it, let it! And keep on letting it. Go wherever your interest and your enjoyment take you. Let that be all. Let that be enough for now.
In fact, it's always enough; it's only ever this way that good things — pleasing things — are created: through play, through satisfaction, happy anticipation, a reveling in the very idea of something and in the smallest of details, a focus on finding joy in this and every moment, a letting/allowing of things to spontaneously unfold as they will.
You see, the human mind is only a tiny fraction of who you are. It's currently predominant in human culture, but it hasn't always been this way and it needn't remain so. It's just what you as humans are experimenting with — what you're playing with — at the moment in this grand game of life.
You've chosen to explore another way. You get frustrated and discouraged when others don't follow or aren't interested or think you're doing it (“life”) wrong. But how could they join you over here when they're preoccupied with what they're doing over there?
Some will want to play this same game, too — either with you or alongside you — but for now most won't. So be it. SO BE IT. It's just fine the way it is. Respect others' choices while you continue to model an alternative. Some will be intrigued, a few will even be persuaded, but most won't. Let them be. Leave them to their own games. It's how the universe works: exploring all manner of options and combinations at the same time.
Life isn't nearly as linear as you think. Neither is evolution, “climate change,” The Economy, technological innovation — anything. Leaps abound — ha ha!! ☺︎
You get a bit wobbly and don't trust that it'll turn out alright because it's so new to you and so very different from what those around you are doing. Do it anyway! It's inspired. It's literally meant to be, and meant to happen now, so trust it.
Well, everything always happens now, but this leap you've taken — this gigantic leap — has been in the making for a very long time. What you're experiencing is the natural culmination of an æons-long process.
And it's not so much a culmination, a completion, as it is a natural evolution in an eternal game, a next phase. What comes after it? Who knows. We're busy enjoying this game right now. It's only just emerging.
Question: Got it. Happy with all that. I'd like to play with the notion of sharing this with others or simply of helping others through the challenges they face in their own lives from this broader/new-to-me/new-game perspective.
I'm bored with the customary platitudes and the sympathetic agreement. I'd love to offer a perspective that resonates with the greater selves of my 'audience' (even if an audience of one) without talking in a language they don't understand or saying things they aren't ready to hear…
Oh! I just realised something: they wouldn't be in my life, nor I in theirs, if we both weren't ready to play with these concepts, to play this new game, together — right?
Answer: That's right. Everyone's ready at the soul (greater self) level. Few are ready/receptive at the level of a life focused primarily or exclusively on the physical. Those people won't be interested in what you have to share. They can't, because your work is at odds with their view of the world and how things work.
Take the example that's on your mind, of people who have lost a beloved animal and are grieving deeply and lastingly, unwilling to see past/beyond/around the loss.
It is pointless to even try to free them from the bonds of their sadness and sense of loss because they identify the best of themselves, their happiest times, with the one they have lost. How could they possibly let that one go?!
The trick to helping them is to help them see how very much they love. How the love they have for the object of their affection comes from within themselves. They are love-ers — ones who love.
That doesn't disappear when the one you love dies. In fact, it intensifies as the love you feel for another is no longer diffused by the love you feel in return. You mourn because you feel the loss of that reflected, reciprocated love.
I see you don't quite get it yet. When you feel incomplete, isolated, separate, an individual on a big, busy planet, you don't appreciate or value yourself as the source of the love you feel for another. Rather than revelling in the fact that you love, and in the delicious feeling when you love, you feel the need for another to love you, to let you know that you're worthy of love, that you're lovable, and that you are loved.
When you can realise that you are inherently worthy, lovable, loved, then you are free to love freely, without needing to be loved in return. And while you may miss and mourn the passing away of someone you love, your love for them and for yourself — from deep within yourself, because it is your very nature — is undimmed. You continue to love unabated and unabashedly, because that's who you are: a love-er. You continue to radiate love spontaneously because that is your essence. You are a love-er.
As long as you continue to need your love reflected back to you by another, and as long as you need others to love you, you will suffer the pains of withdrawal and loss.
Once you realise that the love you've been enjoying with another actually comes from you — from within you — and that it never runs out, then you are truly free to love without hanging on, and without needing to feel love in return.
So, tell those who are grieving that they are inherently lovers — ones who love — and that they can continue to enjoy those lovely feelings, even though the one they love has gone.
Spontaneous, unexpected, unexplained moments of joy are manifestations of this phenomenon, of human as love-er, of animal as love-er, as plants and beetles and stars and … everything, as love-ers.
Go wherever your interest and enjoyment take you.
Let that be all. Let that be enough for now.
The Game
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Christine King
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